Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Finally, I got the chemsie and an injection.  The injection was to help "push out" white blood cells from the bone marrow.  The injection was in the back of the arm.  I have two tattoos, both times avoiding the back of the arm. Frozen and flexing, I thought "relax dang it, relax girl, now."  And then it was over.  Oh, I know what you're thinking, but you're wrong...that was not the highlight of my week.
Just before I got arm fondled, friends and family gathered at Willow Creek to eat BBQ and give me money.  It was amazing.  If I could figure out how to get the photos from Jen's camera I would prove it.  Until then, oh the suspense. By amazing I mean great food and drink, just about everyone I know in Boise, some people I didn't know but who are touched by cancer, and my wonderful family.  I guess they figured I've done my part going to weddings, birthdays, and those dreaded holiday events.  Okay kids, we're even.  But seriously, I would have lasted longer at the mic saying my proper "Thank yous" but I was about to follow my sister's tears with my own, and I can't very well publicize emotion... ha, it's what this blog forum is about...plus I was wearing makeup.
It's the same week I experienced five weeks ago, my bones ache but not enough to loose myself in Vicodin, I feel nauseous without vomiting, and energy to spend but a blood cell count that keeps me locked in alone.  Charlotte, my dog, and I have had some amazing conversations about life, goals, happiness.  We agree, writing a story about a female vagabond's encounters along the California coast is a great way enjoy this space and time.  That and watching every movie in the house.  Well, I'm off to revisit Overboard staring Goldie Hawn (who reminds me of my mom) and Kurt Russell... are they still dating and unwed?

Friday, August 12, 2011

from dad

This is an appeal for financial help.

Two months ago my oldest daughter Nichole age 33 was diagnosed with advanced
breast cancer.  She started chemotherapy treatments right away.  She moved
back to Boise from Denver because she was unable to continue with her job
and because of family and many friends in Idaho. She has limited health
insurance.  Due to her loss of income and the costs of medical care we
suggested she appeal to family and friends for help.  This is my appeal for
her.



Wanting to help her out financially, we've set up a paypal account under
nicholevick@yahoo.com for donations.  Instructions for gifting money are
below*.  We appreciate any amount.  Or email me and I will give you her
address.

Also on Sunday August 14th at 1 PM there will be a fundraising event at
Willow Creek Grill, 2273 S. Vista Ave, Boise.  There is a $20 donation for
the all-you-can eat buffet with proceeds going to Nichole. Their phone is
208-343-5544.

For those wanting a room on August 14, the Boise Hotel and Conference Center
has limited availability rooms for the special rate of $49 a night
(208-343-4900).  They are just up the street from Willow Creek, and very
close to the airport, at 3300 Vista Ave, phone 208-343-4900.

There has been talk of additional fundraisers such as a silent auction of
donated items and services and maybe a motorcycle ride-for-Nichole.  More on
these later.

Of course we appreciate all the prayers.  For those of you who don't know
us, thanks regardless.  And sorry for any duplicates.


*To use Paypal go to Paypal.com, select "Home", select "send money", fill in
the amount, check "friends and family", click continue, fill in the email
addresses of sender and receiver, then fill in the details.  All you need it
a bank account number, or credit or debit card.  Paypal will notify Nichole
of the transfer.


Lannes Ray Vick
El Cajon, CA

jumping bean

I want something I can’t have, chemo.  No chemo again this week.  My platelet count is back up but my white blood cell count has some growing up to do.  Running amuck I tell you.  Okay, I’m way to hard on her, I don’t have any infections and haven’t gotten sick, so she’s still doing her job without as many employees… been there, done that.  My mom asked why they could just give it to me?  Even if I were to be hospitalized and medicated, fear of infection is too much a reality.  I wanted to remind my mom that I’m healthy, other than the fact I’m ridden with cancer, and need to stay that way.

My sister’s and girlfriend’s work is putting on a benefit for me this weekend.  I have friends flying in from Denver joining a bunch of people here I’ve never met (some I have) to give me money.  It’s not even a loan.  I just keep it all.  Well, not keep it really, I’ll buy food, travel to out-of-state doctor appointments, and mostly pay hospital bills.  It’s like a sweetest, coolest, most helpful thing.  Who said money can’t buy love?
I know, that’s not really what it’s about.  I mean it is, but it isn’t.  They told me almost two months ago they were planning this benefit.  I didn’t have do anything… let me rephrase that, they wanted to do everything.  I think it’s the first “party” for me since I was a wee child I didn’t dictate. Although difficult at first, I relaxed my fists and backed off.  I’ve been able to view this gift like the many others people have shown me. 
Two prayer quilts from family, friends, and strangers cover my couch.  Letters and notes of sympathy and optimism collage every day.  A motorcycle, rides to and from the hospital, visits at the hospital, phone calls just to check in, silence so I can release emotions, pats on  the back, hugs, kisses, little crooked smiles and nods from strangers that mean “hang in there sista”, this benefit-gathering, all give me a since of pride and self worth that keeps my mind strong.  And although I need it some days more than others it’s a large pillow I can rely on to be there as I jump.

P.S. the word bean in the title is there because to a few of people I love most in the world, everyone is a bean

Thursday, August 4, 2011

family reunion and food

The trek through Oregon to my family reunion was beautiful as always.  An eight hour drive starts as a desert, peaks as a forest, and ends in plains. Missing the call of big city hustle I stayed over in Portland for a night.  Sure enough, we marveled at how easy shopping was at the little boutiques.   Hats, scarves, shoes, furniture, cute little artsy trinkets and pretty “us” wonderful things for our home were everywhere.  Unfortunately, this wasn’t the trip for home furnishings.    I did buy a pair of re-fashioned jeans and a scarf of course.

The Williams family meets every three years on a quaint patch of forest land with a lake, a rope swing, and an old school.  The lucky ones sleep three or four to a room, while others bunk in tents on the front lawn.  My siblings and I bunked with delight.

The camp includes food and service, games (volley ball and baseball), supervised swimming and canoeing, and all the family time one could endure in four days.  Needless to say it’s an adventure we all pay for mentally, physically, and monetarily.  Laughing takes the place of music, name tags should be required, and I’m glad I had an excuse to bring my own dietary supplements (no wonder why people spent so much time on the toilet).

The Saturday before we leave, the adults whose normal ruthless behavior is forced into hiding reveals itself during a trip into town to drink and sing karaoke.  I had gone only once before.  This time sober, the whole of it was felt.  Although we weren’t the only members to brave the microphone, my siblings and I sang “Nothing’s Gonna Stop us Now” from the movie soundtrack Manikin.  It was a off-key tear-jerker.

By noon on Sunday most were packed up and heading back home (Alaska, California, Oregon, or Idaho). 

But that wasn’t the end to my vacation.  Although I made it home, it was just days before my next chemo treatment and a month of my rigorous food program and I was going to be naughty.  I pictured a large burrito with the works, a couple slices of greasy New York style pizza, cold strong beer, and a double chocolate brownie smothered in vanilla bean ice cream and topped with caramel.   So yummy, right?  Well, yah!  However, I didn’t make it that far.  My stomach isn’t what it used to be.  I did enjoy the pizza and one cold Anchor Steam, but I had to stop there… no more room.


Today I went to get that, now routine, treatment only to find out my counts are too low. I need more platelets and blood cells.  I guess I should be thrilled I get to wait another week to feel nauseated and tired but I’d prefer to just get it done.